Although I haven't been updating you on my dating life in awhile, it doesn't mean nothing has been happening. In fact, it's been pretty busy and even exhausting at times. Not that I planned it that way. But even one of my ex's re-appeared and tried to go back to where we left off 4 years ago (read "From Ex to the Next" post).
Then there were other guys, and some of them had potential, just not enough to make it to a "boy-friend" status. One of them, however, deserves to be mentioned here, for such persistence and patience I haven't seen since I was 15. The majority of men I dated in the last 10 years, were older or much older, and therefore somewhat experienced with women. Meaning, they would get my "subtle" leave-me-alone signals reasonably fast. Not with this guy though. I don't mind his friendship (he's a great person!) but I know his "intentions" are bothering me at times. It's been going on for 3 months. Will see how long he'll last...
What can I say, even a young guy pursuing me this summer, though persistent, got the point. After 4 dates he said what I couldn't bring myself saying "I see you're not into me. So I'm gonna go". Yes, Thank you. Really, Thank you for taking initiative and sparing me from an "unpleasant" part of dating.
Man, I wish I were more direct. It's the woman in me, that still wants to make it sound nice, like "It's not you, it's me" speech. Guys, just tell me if you'd rather hear "Leave me alone. Period. I mean it "Leave me alone" and I'll do just that. But even when I did say it to another "character" hitting on me this month, guess what happened? It turned into a text diarrhea, from his side, obviously. He wouldn't stop texting me for a month trying any way possible to get me on a date. I don't know what to say.
I am not trying to sound preposterous but it did happen and believe me I got very tired. You know me I don't like dating, but it certainly felt like everyone wanted a piece of me. Sorry again, you know I am never trying to boast or anything. I'd rather just have one guy interested whom I also like. That would be all I wanted. But unfortunately, I need to go through a lot of weeding out. I guess that's the part of the process in finding the right one.
So what did I do?
I escaped to the beach any chance possible. Some days I was there completely alone, happy to finally enjoy my own undivided attention and re-connect with the nature. Some days - with friends and new acquaintances and admirers :). Naturally I attracted attention. But as anything with the ocean: it comes and goes, and I am here :)
Now that the Summer is over (Did I finally say that?), I am ready for a new season, and maybe a bit more focus on selective dating. In fact, most of my relationships started in the Fall. I guess nothing is as good as a new hot relationship to sooth the pain of the ended Summer and approaching cold season...
Happy dating everyone!
Then there were other guys, and some of them had potential, just not enough to make it to a "boy-friend" status. One of them, however, deserves to be mentioned here, for such persistence and patience I haven't seen since I was 15. The majority of men I dated in the last 10 years, were older or much older, and therefore somewhat experienced with women. Meaning, they would get my "subtle" leave-me-alone signals reasonably fast. Not with this guy though. I don't mind his friendship (he's a great person!) but I know his "intentions" are bothering me at times. It's been going on for 3 months. Will see how long he'll last...
What can I say, even a young guy pursuing me this summer, though persistent, got the point. After 4 dates he said what I couldn't bring myself saying "I see you're not into me. So I'm gonna go". Yes, Thank you. Really, Thank you for taking initiative and sparing me from an "unpleasant" part of dating.
Man, I wish I were more direct. It's the woman in me, that still wants to make it sound nice, like "It's not you, it's me" speech. Guys, just tell me if you'd rather hear "Leave me alone. Period. I mean it "Leave me alone" and I'll do just that. But even when I did say it to another "character" hitting on me this month, guess what happened? It turned into a text diarrhea, from his side, obviously. He wouldn't stop texting me for a month trying any way possible to get me on a date. I don't know what to say.
I am not trying to sound preposterous but it did happen and believe me I got very tired. You know me I don't like dating, but it certainly felt like everyone wanted a piece of me. Sorry again, you know I am never trying to boast or anything. I'd rather just have one guy interested whom I also like. That would be all I wanted. But unfortunately, I need to go through a lot of weeding out. I guess that's the part of the process in finding the right one.
So what did I do?
I escaped to the beach any chance possible. Some days I was there completely alone, happy to finally enjoy my own undivided attention and re-connect with the nature. Some days - with friends and new acquaintances and admirers :). Naturally I attracted attention. But as anything with the ocean: it comes and goes, and I am here :)
Now that the Summer is over (Did I finally say that?), I am ready for a new season, and maybe a bit more focus on selective dating. In fact, most of my relationships started in the Fall. I guess nothing is as good as a new hot relationship to sooth the pain of the ended Summer and approaching cold season...
Happy dating everyone!
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