Friday, September 21, 2012


This is from my series about my serious obsession with Bergdorf's window display. This month, they are celebrating a 111 year anniversary. Happy Birthday BG, and Thank You for 111 years of amazing creativity, really at its best!

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Dating Game, V

Although I haven't been updating you on my dating life in awhile, it doesn't mean nothing has been happening. In fact, it's been pretty busy and even exhausting at times. Not that I planned it that way. But even one of my ex's re-appeared and tried to go back to where we left off 4 years ago (read "From Ex to the Next" post).

Then there were other guys, and some of them had potential, just not enough to make it to a "boy-friend" status. One of them, however, deserves to be mentioned here, for such persistence and patience I haven't seen since I was 15. The majority of men I dated in the last 10 years, were older or much older, and therefore somewhat experienced with women. Meaning, they would get my "subtle" leave-me-alone signals reasonably fast. Not with this guy though. I don't mind his friendship (he's a great person!) but I know his "intentions" are bothering me at times. It's been going on for 3 months. Will see how long he'll last...

What can I say, even a young guy pursuing me this summer, though persistent, got the point. After 4 dates he said what I couldn't bring myself saying "I see you're not into me. So I'm gonna go". Yes, Thank you. Really, Thank you for taking initiative and sparing me from an "unpleasant" part of dating.

Man, I wish I were more direct. It's the woman in me, that still wants to make it sound nice, like "It's not you, it's me" speech. Guys, just tell me if you'd rather hear "Leave me alone. Period. I mean it "Leave me alone" and I'll do just that. But even when I did say it to another "character" hitting on me this month, guess what happened? It turned into a text diarrhea, from his side, obviously. He wouldn't stop texting me for a month trying any way possible to get me on a date. I don't know what to say.

I am not trying to sound preposterous but it did happen and believe me I got very tired. You know me I don't like dating, but it certainly felt like everyone wanted a piece of me. Sorry again, you know I am never trying to boast or anything. I'd rather just have one guy interested whom I also like. That would be all I wanted. But unfortunately, I need to go through a lot of weeding out. I guess that's the part of the process in finding the right one.

So what did I do?

I escaped to the beach any chance possible. Some days I was there completely alone, happy to finally enjoy my own undivided attention and re-connect with the nature. Some days - with friends and new acquaintances and admirers :). Naturally I attracted attention. But as anything with the ocean: it comes and goes, and I am here :)

Now that the Summer is over (Did I finally say that?), I am ready for a new season, and maybe a bit more focus on selective dating. In fact, most of my relationships started in the Fall. I guess nothing is as good as a new hot relationship to sooth the pain of the ended Summer and approaching cold season...

Happy dating everyone!

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Life Goes On

Last week I made a trip to the downtown area, where the Twin Towers used to stand.
They fell in 2001, only 3 months after I moved to New York. It was a shock that couldn't be described.
We, New Yorkers, were speechless for a long time. Though life went on we could never quiet understand how we felt about it. There were no right words to describe it...

Now, 11 years later, all I can say: Life goes on. It's New York.

I was excited to see the new developments at the site. The project isn't just gorgeous in architectural sense, it's glorious. Once again, New York stood strong and showed the power of its spirit.

P.S. pics from the new site. Already the tallest building in the city. And it's only a tip of an iceberg of what it will look like once it's finished.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

New York Love: So What?

New York Love: So What?: Today, while talking to my girl-friend I realized exactly where I was standing on dating and all the attention I'm getting these days. The ...

Sunday, September 2, 2012

So What?

Today, while talking to my girl-friend I realized exactly where I was standing on dating and all the attention I'm getting these days. The best way I could put it was "So What?"

I think we all come to that point in our lives when we just don't care. It could be due to bad experiences, it could be due to busy schedules, or simply due to the part of growing up. I believe all those factors are at play. But most importantly, I believe it's due to my progressively developing self-love, self-discovery and self-worth. The point when you realize that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. I know it sounds cliche and it's been said and will be said many times. But I don't mind being one more person to say: The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.

I heard it so many times, and I recited it to myself time and time again. But before it actually happened, it was just words. Yes, it takes time, but one day it happens and you just feel it. You start listening to yourself before taking any step, before taking any action, before saying any word (maybe that's why I've been less vocal these days:). Anyway, you just know that it's You now and whatever it is you have to do you want to make sure it's aligned with your heart, mind and soul.

So you ask me, Where does dating fit in this?
Well, dating is just a social activity to experience yourself through others. Something like that :) So you become more philosophical about it. You definitely filter it more carefully, and become more precious with the time spent with others. Read between the lines: less dating, more about quality than quantity :)

And what about finding true love? The question most of us ask ourselves most of our lives, and the question that started this blog! Believe it or not, I have the answer.

There is nowhere we need to look or go, but within ourselves. Yes, true love, is the one you have for yourself and it's already within you. That simple, yet that hard to accept.

But once you find and cherish that love, the search is no longer outside yourself but within. and all other relationships simply become a beautiful reflection of it.