Happy Labor Day

Cheers All!

just wanted to show off my tan (some pics with my girl-friends). I think I've outdone myself this summer. Now I can pretend I am from Spain :)

Will be catching up with you later. Have so much to tell you! As for now, Please all Have an amazing Labor Day Weekend! Go to the beach, have some fun in the sun, let your body move :)

New York in Pictures

From West Village to Upper West Side.

The Big Fake O

It's the 21st Century, and it's no longer a secret that most (all!) women fake an orgasm now and then. We don't want to hurt your feelings guys, but the truth is we do it on a regular basis.

Although this fact is no longer shocking, the next thing I am going to share with you is probably going to shake some men's world. Not intentional, I'm just being a messenger here.

The Big truth about the Big O is very few men make us orgasm 90-100% of the time. The majority is about 50/50 or less. Whatever a woman tells you, this is the truth and we don't want you to feel bad about it. Don't get me wrong, we still enjoy sex, and can be crazy about you. It's just not every man can take us all the way to the top. Blame it on our complexities.

Being a man, of course you want to know what needs to be done to make her orgasm. How does one become a great lover?

There is really no guideline, for if there was we would definitely share it with you. Don't you think we'd rather enjoy the most amazing feeling in the world than faking it and worrying whether we did a good job? I don't have to answer it:)

You guys know me, I analyze stuff, I search for answers. So I am going to share some knowledge that might be helpful. Again, there is always a room for improvement.

If you recall from my earlier posts about sex and sexuality, I am extremely sexual, and certainly feel entitled to have strong opinions based on my love for sex and my partners' feedback :) But even I haven't "hit the spot" with most of my partners every time we were intimate. Reality: only 2 men in my life lead me to orgasm every time we made love. One of them I loved, the other - I didn't. Therefore my earlier theory that we only experience it 100% of the time with the one we love is not true. Besides, the 2nd man I loved, had less than 50% success rate with me (not that he knew that...)
As I learned love is not all it takes.

So what did those men have that others didn't?
They both seriously and genuinely cared about pleasuring me in and out of bed. They put me first at all times when we were together. They truly believed and made me feel that I was the most beautiful girl in the world. They never asked me to do anything for them, they simply wanted to take care of me. They made me feel special. They treated me nicely and generously, showed me undivided attention. They always set the mood, and made me feel safe. They picked me up and carried me to bed. They let me feel desirable, a true sex Goddess. They took oral sex to the next level.

The most amazing part about it is that we didn't even have to do anything crazy. There were no acrobatic moves, stimulants of any sort or any extra work involved. It would happen so naturally, so smoothly that we could never even recall how we got there. It was just easy, almost too easy. But that's the real beauty: The Big O is very simple if you only find the right key :)

How do you find the key? Well, this is for you to find out. There are different keys just as there are different women. But you'll need to find the one that is just right for her.
But I am sure putting her first would be a good place to start with any woman!

Dangerous New York

This is rather ironic, just when I shared my fascination with the Central Park a few days ago, last night I had one of the most horrible experiences there.

Every day I walk home from work, and since the park is on the way, I love walking through it. It's really an almost every day routine for me, no matter what time it is as it's always beautiful and relaxing after a hectic day.

Last night was no different, I left the office after 7pm and was in the park around 8pm, just when the dusk was setting in. When I turned off the stone bridge over the pond (pic 1), and entered a secluded path (pic 2) leading to the west side of the park, a sharp sense of alert struck me. I noticed a shadow behind me getting bigger and I realized that I was being followed. In panic, I started praying for people to be right behind the bushes a few steps away. As the shadow was getting closer to me and I made a turn behind the bushes, I was relieved to find a couple sitting on the bench and the other one walking towards me. The follower slowed down and I got a few moments to gather my breath and collect my thoughts.

I was fully aware that I was being followed so I proceeded to move to the side of the park where people jog and ride bicycles. And although I walked right on the road, where pedestrians were not allowed, I felt him following behind me. A few times I would slow down and look at my phone and I would notice him slowing down too. As I would start pacing he'd be right behind me. Something told me not to look at him and not let him know that I was aware of his presence.

Once I exited the park, and entered the crowded street of West Broadway, I was hoping he'd left. But when I slowed down and looked at my phone, I realized he was still there. I was freaking out. Not willing to walk home, and let him see where I lived, I needed to somehow scare him to leave me alone. I didn't want to attract anyone's attention, so I stopped at the Lincoln Plaza Cinema and pretended that I was reading the posters. Thank God, there were people around. He wasn't sure what to do, and then I clearly saw him. He nervously moved to the side, and once I dialed my phone and started looking around as if I was waiting for someone, he ran away.

That was the 2nd time I was being followed in the city, the 1st time being on the subway in the middle of the day. The scariest part is that it happened in areas that are perceived to be some of the safest places in NY, and with people around. It makes it so much more creepy, knowing that it could happen anywhere at any time.

Word of advice: be vigilant at all times. As any big city in the world, NY has bad and good that needs to be paid attention to.

He Is So Into You

Get ready, ladies. In this post, I, for once and for all, will shed some light on how to tell if he is interested or not. Although we women always know it deep inside but, for some reason, sometimes don't want to face the truth. If however you love yourself and know your worth, knowing and accepting this truth will save you time and heartache in your search for love. Don't waste your time. Be smart.

As usual, I turned to my male friend to give me his insights first.

Me: "How can you tell if the guy is really interested? And not just a fling, but a relationship."

Man: "It's so simple. You just see it in his actions. It's palpable. He'll do things (even crazy things) to show her he is into her. Give her a lot of attention, initiate seeing her as much as possible. He'll take her out to great places, send her flowers, listen to what she is into, and make plans accordingly. He'll be generous. He won't be aggressive in trying to get her into bed right away. Definitely not expect to get between the sheets after just 3-4 dates. He'll be patient. Let her make that move. Basically he'll go all the way, without reservation."

So you see ladies, when he is really into you, it is so obvious you don't ever have to question it. If you need to wonder and ask your girl-friends "Why hasn't he called/texted/followed up/etc..., it means that he has something else more exciting to catch. Yes, men are hunters, and they'll hunt to the end for the one they want. So quit those pointless "excuse finders", i.e. he is busy at work, he's traveling, and especially excuses like the following: "It's me, I didn't show enough interest", "I did something wrong".

Please don't ever question yourself. It's not you. If it's your guy, he'll get you. You'll never have to question yourself with him, for he wants you the way you are.

I've always known it, and it's been the truth I followed through all of my dating experiences. I wouldn't even be interested in a guy who's not making his best effort to win me over. He needs to pursue, he needs to move the mountain to even get my interest. Otherwise, I am not interested. What's the point?? If he didn't put any effort into it in the beginning, how will he appreciate you going forward?

For some unknown reason, I do meet a lot of women who either don't see it or don't want to see it. So if you want the truth and simply don't see it, this post is for you. Stop questioning yourself. You're the goddess, and deserve to be treated as such. And please believe me, once you hold this belief and won't accept any guy who makes you question, there will be a man (or many men) who will go out of their way to get your attention, to see you, to make you smile. Just take my word for it.

Just see how we all appreciate something that comes harder to us, something we need to work for. That short 5-day vacation once a year. It's so precious, we savor every day, every minute of it. And how would you feel about it, if you could go on a vacation every month for more than a week? You wouldn't care so much, would you?

It's the same case with everything in life. Value increases as attainability decreases. Know your worth. You are your own appraiser. Ultimately, it is up to you, whether you want a man who'll treat you like a princess and you'll bloom like a flower with him. Or you'll be spending your time asking your friends, driving yourself crazy and losing your self-confidence.

What serves you right is for you to decide. But I inspire you to discover your divine female power and only let those men into your life who'll match it up and take it higher.

My love to you!

Old New York

Central Park is one of New York's trademarks. It's so refreshing to have a beautiful piece of nature right in the center of the city. I compare it to an oasis in the middle of a desert. The most amazing part is the "old" feel it has. As soon as you enter the park, and away from sky scrapers around, it feels as if the time machine took you back in time.

Notice 4 different ways of transportation: a horse carriage, a car, a bicycle, and a runner. Fascinating. 

Boat house. Fav thing: live jazz

Dare Yourself, Move Your Body

Cheers All,

I haven't given up on my "Dare Yourself" series, in case you were wondering. Giving up simply isn't my style, you should know it by now. The truth is this summer has been super busy, and probably for the first time in 11 years, I've been having a lot of summer fun. I was excited to witness my skin getting darker, and face freckles having a come back. Seriously I hadn't seen them in over 11 years!! They are back and I've never loved them more.

If you recall, most of the "dares" I've undertaken so far had to do with life situations, love, friendship and dating. This time, however, I've decided to challenge my body.

Daring acts:

1) Learn how to surf;
2) Learn pole dancing.

Course of action:

1) I always knew if I were to be born and spend my childhood by the water, surfing would be a big part of my life. I've always been drawn to all things that have to do with water: beach, boats, swimming pools, oceans, seas, lakes, ponds, rivers, yachts, surf boards, bikinis, even showers (which I take at least twice a day). What can I say, I am the happiest when I am by/in the water. Maybe because I am a Pisces, or maybe because it makes me see and appreciate the beauty of nature like nothing else. Final word: my last day on Earth I would want to spend on the beach by the water :)

Digressing aside, since this Summer I discovered an easy escape to the beach (covered on my blog NY Life), and it became basically a weekly routine for me, surfing entered my mind. Believe it or not, there is a big surfing community on Long Island. Who knew? Naturally it was just a matter of time before I met some surfers, and trying surfing became the next logical step. So far I've only tried it a couple times, and I had fun. I can't say it comes as easily as horseback riding, but the waves are not the most forgiving on LI. Still, I am holding strong. I feel the waves :)
Will keep you all updated. But for now, I can definitely say that there is nothing more freeing and exciting than getting out there and riding the wave. One day, I'll be standing high, I'll be riding free.

2) Pole dancing: don't ask why. I think because it's sexy, it's fun. And you should see those girls, they have killer abs and bums. First class is this Thursday. Will let you all know how it went!

Word of inspiration: Challenge yourself. Try new things. Let your body move, let it live.

Creative? Humorous? What is it?

New York is famous for being cutting-edge. Simply put, there is no joke about the city, and/or living here. So it does come as a big surprise when you witness something "strangely humorous" going on, things that seem to be out of place. The question is always "How in hell did it land here?" Yet again, it's New York: anything is possible. 

Below are some shots of Park Ave, with sculptures that might as well have been dropped there by aliens. What's ironic is that Park Ave is considered to be one of the classiest streets in the city (my personal favorite), so it's double surprise when you witness "such action" (as shown in pics) taking place.

Windows, Windows

I'm very excited about the new display at Bergdorf Goodman: http://blog.bergdorfgoodman.com/windows/windows-at-bergdorf-goodman.
The theme is "Back to School", but the pictures say it all. Yet again, progressive, stylish, perfect.